Wednesday, July 30, 2008

Family

So, I've been debating about whether to write this post or not but I finally decided to just go ahead and do it! I've been inspired by others that I have met through blogging and other places that some things should be shared, even if they are slightly personal.

Many of you know that we have been trying for about 3 years to have another baby and it just hasn't happened. We have even seen a fertility specialist and undergone treatments but stopped short of in vitro (it's amazing how expensive that can become!). Unfortunately I seem to fall into an ever growing category of women who have unexplained infertility and it seems that there really isn't anything that can be done about it. This has proven to be extremely frustrating because Mark and I both have felt that more children were in our future and Brayden and Tarell have been BEGGING for a sister for awhile now. We've prayed and fasted asking for the opportunity to have another baby and never really felt like we got a clear answer. So, instead of waiting for a time when we might have money to try in vitro we decided that there are plenty of kids out there that need a home...we have a home that needs more kids so we looked into adoption.

We checked several options..private adoption, out of country adoption, church social services, etc and the common problem is money. I can't believe all the fees that go along with adoption and it can run around $50,000. Since I am in school and we have only one income at the time that just isn't an option. So, we looked into the child crisis nursery here in AZ and found what we were looking for. This kind of adoption involves slightly older children that are in state custody for any number of reasons...but they need homes too. In order to be eligible for this we had to take some classes and then fill out loads of paperwork and have our house inspected and then be approved by the court. On May 22nd we were finally certified to adopt! YEAH!!

We thought for sure that we would have kids soon after. Now, 2 months later we are still waiting! This is the hard part. We've had some possibilities but nothing that we felt was right for us. As badly as we want more kids we want it to be a good situation for everyone so we might be a little picky, which we have been assured is a good thing in order to make it work! We are super excited and we decided that we could even take a sibling group if it is the right situation. Our desired ages are 0-7 and i absolutely require that we get at least one girl! I'm longing for some pink princess stuff! We'll see what happens!

I had originally wanted to wait to let anyone know what we are doing until something actually happened. BUT, I decided that prayers and support of family and friends might help out in finding the kids that are meant to be part of our family. So, any prayers would be greatly appreciated! Thanks everyone, we love you!

8 comments:

The Gotzingers said...

We are totally praying for you. Being someone that was adopted I really love and appreciate people like you!!! You have no idea. You are also a blessing for the child or children you choose. Bless you guys!! Seriously!

P.S. We're dying to see you guys!! Let's get together soon!!

Linda said...

What a sweet, inspiring post. There really is strength in the united prayers of people who love you, and there are lots of us out here!

Kellie "kiki" Openshaw said...

You guys are great! Thanks for sharing, like your Mom said it is inspiring. We will keep you in our prayers!

And I will be hoping for a girl too, you know we love all things girly!

Sawyers Family said...

That is wonderful news. I hope you get a girl soon! And I will start making an afghan as soon as you bring her home. Does it matter if she's 3 or 4 and gets an afghan? :)
I think you rock and I wish we could have been friends growing up...but the situation didn't allow for that...so I'm thankful for this blog and that we can be friends through blogging!

Chei & Adam said...

So I have not been able to keep up on your blog because i have been "homeless" as we have been in the process of moving for waaay to long now but I finally got internet and wow you are truly amazing! I know how frustrating your situation is and I know that Heavenly Father has a plan for each one of us. I am so glad that you are listening to the spirit and have chosen the path that you are on. I know that whoever is blessed to be sent to your home will be one very lucky child-miss you and I will be praying for you!

Carol said...

I have been thinking about you lately and I am so happy to hear your good news. I hope you get some news soon!

Mikala said...

Keep me posted as to when your new family member arrives....may be just the excuse I need to come and FINALLY visit! Although..traveling with two kids may result in you getting two more children....HEY! you'll get your girl! ;)
You guys will be in my prayers! (Although that may HINDER your process! Kidding!)

Jennifer Wiechert said...

Just stopped by your site to check in on how things are in Arizona. One of these days I will get around to downloading the pictures from Tarell's trip to WA. We had a great time, and I hope he did, too! Evan asks almost daily when it is his turn to go visit Arizona, WITHOUT DAVIS, and play with "HIS" cousin Brayden. It looks like we might be able to do the trip again during Spring Break 2009 (WITH Davis and Steve). In the meantime, our thoughts and prayers are with you as you move through this constant state of waiting and transition. We love you all!

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